No, I’m not talking about your significant other. I’m referring to that special someone who handles all of the day-to-day minutae of running a dojo. This is the person who organizes the office, signs new students up, makes flyers for seminars, cleans the dojo, and in general, carries out Sensei’s wishes. This is the person who everyone goes to first with questions about how things work at the dojo. This is the person without whom the dojo would not be what it is today.
In some dojos, this person would be the uchi-deshi - a live-in student. In exchange for taking care of the dojo, the uchi-deshi would receive special or extra attention and instructions from Sensei.
We don’t have an uchi-deshi at our dojo. We have someone who I can only describe as extraordinary in her organizational skills and in her dedication. She’s a regular student just like me. She trains and goes home every night just like me. As far as I can tell, she doesn’t receive any more instruction from Sensei than any of us. Yet, you’d find her on a typical day toiling in the office, updating records, making calls, and doing whatever required doing in the name of the dojo.
Just yesterday, I found out she spent two hours on her knees cleaning the hardwood floor. This should rightly be on the misogi list - a task that we as students would sign up for. But she did it without complaint, without any expectation that anyone would notice. I knew she did a lot but this piece of news really touched me.
Back in my taekwondo days, I did what she did for my instructor. We had a very small studio - about twenty students max in its hey day. There really wasn’t anyone taking care of the day-to-day stuff. My instructor, with all due respect, was somewhat of an absent-minded professor. So I took it upon myself to handle things around the office, including the cleaning. Not a big deal, right? That’s expected from a student. Sure, in an aikido dojo. Misogi is a very big part of the practice. Not so with taekwondo. Maybe because the art has devolved into more of a sport in which its practitioners are more athletes than martial artists. I don’t know. But it is almost impossible to get students to participate with the upkeep of the dojang (that’s Korean for dojo). I once asked my instructor why we can’t just ask the students to help clean. He told me these people pay money to be there. He can’t ask them to do menial tasks like cleaning.
On some level, I understand that. Even at our aikido dojo, we never ever tell anyone that they must clean. But many do so anyways because they realize that it is their dojo. Sure you pay to be there but you get so much more in return. Doing menial tasks like cleaning is the least you can do to pay back for the lifetime of training you’ll be receiving.
Anyways, having been in a dojo in which no one took responsibility for anything, it really touched me that this special someone at our dojo is so dedicated. If you train at my dojo, it is very obvious who I’m talking about. Go say thank you to her.
Hopefully, this post will inspire other aikidoka to not only thank their special someone (or special people if there are more than one), but also to help out around the dojo if not already doing so.